I’m sitting here watching an episode of VeggieTales® with Josiah. The lesson is on forgiveness. Forgiveness – my Achilles heel. Forgiveness is hard for me. I feel things very deeply and I’ve got a memory better than an elephant. Add that to a strong sense of justice and you’ve got perfect conditions for bitterness and resentment to bloom. sigh.

Needless to say, Holy Spirit has had to do a lot of work in me. And while I have come a long way, His work is not done and I am schooled frequently in this subject.

I think I’ve struggled so greatly with this issue because often there is no apology. I want a confession of wrong-doing, a public admission of guilt and a vow to treat me better next time. And I want my offender to suffer feel remorse. Without this, I struggle to forgive because I think I deserve an apology and I don’t think they deserve forgiveness unless they admit the error of their ways.

But Holy Spirit showed me that as a follower of Jesus, I’ve been given a different set of guidelines to follow. Those who follow Jesus are instructed to forgive like we have been forgiven. Ephesians 4:32 (NLT) Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.

That’s a tall order, because the way we’ve been forgiven is supernatural. Like nothing we’ve ever experienced before.

  • Psalm 103:3, 10 & 12 (NLT) Let all that I am praise the LORD; may I never forget the good things He does for me. He forgives all my sins and heals all my diseases. 10 He does not punish us for all our sins; He does not deal harshly with us, as we deserve. 12 He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west.
  • Colossians 2:13 (NLT) You were dead because of your sins and because your sinful nature was not yet cut away. Then God made you alive with Christ, for He forgave all our sins.
  • Hebrews 8:12 (NLT) And I will forgive their wickedness, and I will never again remember their sins.
  • Hebrews 10:17 (NIV) I will never again remember their sins and lawless deeds.

Think about that.

Abba extends forgiveness to all of humanity – without exception – through Jesus. And His forgiveness is for all of our sins – no exceptions. We choose whether or not to accept it. His extension of forgiveness is NOT contingent upon our acceptance. [the experience of salvation is totally contingent upon our personal acceptance]

He does not give us what we deserve, which is punishment and death. Instead He offers us forgiveness and through it, freedom and abundant life.

He separates us from our sin and chooses not to see us in light of our sin. He does not identify us with our sin. He does not hold them against us. He chooses not to remember them.

That’s powerful. That’s wonderful. That’s amazing. That’s supernatural. And that’s exactly how we are called to forgive others. I told you, it’s a tall order.

As followers of Jesus, we don’t get to choose who we will and will not forgive. We aren’t supposed to give anyone what they deserve but we are to release them from the debt owed. We are to choose not to see them in light of their sin and not to identify them with their sin. We’re to choose not to remember their offense.

And this applies to all offense. From the minor infraction to the most gut wrenching tragedy. Did I mention this is a tall order?

But how? How can we extend forgiveness – the complete forgiveness we’ve received through Jesus – to those who aren’t sorry or don’t want it? To those who clearly don’t deserve it?  How can we forgive when someone has crushed us and our life is in ruins? When we feel like we’ll never recover? When we feel like we can’t forgive? When we don’t want to? How can we do something so supernatural?

We do this through His grace. 2Corinthians 12:9 (NLT) My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness. His grace empowers us to do what we could never do on our own. His grace is all we need.

And I see this so clearly in Pastor Davey Blackburn, the husband of murder victim Amanda Blackburn. What a beautiful picture of Abba’s grace. On Monday, November 23rd, Davey said that his hope is his wife’s murderer would “begin to experience the life-transforming power of the Grace and Mercy of Jesus Christ. And, “That Jesus would give me and our family a heart of forgiveness. Though everything inside of me wants to hate, be angry, and slip into despair I choose the route of forgiveness, grace and hope. If there is one thing I’ve learned from Amanda in the 10 years we were together, it’s this: Choosing to let my emotions drive my decisions is recipe for a hopeless and fruitless life. Today I am deciding to love, not hate. Today I am deciding to extend forgiveness, not bitterness. Today I am deciding to hope, not despair. By Jesus’ power at work within us, the best is STILL yet to come. Even when I don’t see it, I believe it to be true.”   [You can see the full article here.]

I love his transparency. I love his willingness. Davey knows this is beyond his ability to endure. He realizes he does not have the strength to forgive. So he is asking for Abba to give him a heart of forgiveness. He is making the choice to love and extend forgiveness. Even though his world will never be the same. Even though he is devastated. Even though her killer does not deserve this. In his weakness, he is drawing from Abba’s grace.

I’ve never seen anything so beautiful in all my life. This is taking up your cross and following Jesus. This is walking the narrow road. This is following in the footsteps of Jesus.

This is where I want to be. I pray I never have a challenge so great. But I do pray that in every offense I experience, Holy Spirit will empower me to tap into Abba’s grace so fully that I can draw from His supernatural strength and forgive the way He has forgiven me. I pray that forgiveness is no longer my Achilles heel and that it becomes my natural response to offense.


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  1. We’ve just celebrated a day devoted to thankfulness and yet we can never be truly thankful if we hold bitterness and unforgiveness in our hearts. There’s not room for both.
    Just this past week Abba reminded me that I needed to forgive a pro athlete who was accused of an offence against a woman but was found not guilty. This hapened years ago and I was not personally involved with any of the parties. Yet I held this unforgiveness which the enemy reminded me of on a regular basis. Why oh why?
    I’m so very grateful that I could celebrate yesterday with a clean heart.
    And although I can’t read your mind Kim, I definitely can see your heart and I want to be like you when I grow up. Love you

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      That’s awesome Ellen. I just love how faithful Abba is to root out the smallest things so that they don’t become bigger issues or patterns. Weeding so that we remain pure. And I love you too 🙂

  2. Love this Kim! Well……I love everything you have written.. Your blogs are not only thought provoking, but life changing as the truth of His Word is revealed, ruminated on and applied to my everyday life. Thank you for all the ways you teach us Abba’s truth. Love you more.

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  3. Thank you for not making forgiveness look easy. Even when I think I have forgiven “correctly” my remembrance mechanism works far better than it should. Thank God for His strength and grace.

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